Archives for June 2007

Got Milk?

When Cordy was born, I was determined to breastfeed. My daughter, however, wasn’t so interested in the idea. Our first two days in the hospital were filled with frustration, as I would try to get her to eat and she would resist. She would latch on at first, then realize she wasn’t getting much (it was still colostrum at that point), let go and scream. Repeat every half hour. Even the lactation consultant was no help.

Our third night in the hospital, the staff checked her blood sugar levels and told me her levels were low. Whether I wanted it or not, she was getting a bottle. The look on her little newborn face when offered the bottle was one of surprise and glee. After all, this was easy! The liquid just flowed into her mouth without any effort! It was at that point, I realized we had lost the battle, as my lazy child decided that the easy way was the way to go.

I continued to fight with breastfeeding for the next four months before giving up entirely. She would make a half-hearted attempt at breastfeeding, and then I would follow up with a bottle of formula or pumped milk afterwards. By the time I was back at work, she was mostly on formula.

With Mira, I hoped things would be different, and in many ways, they are. Thanks to the VBAC, she was able to breastfeed minutes after birth, and I was thrilled that she latched on like a pro. But when we got home, her appetite seemed to be endless, and I couldn’t keep up with her. We had to supplement, an act that gave me flashbacks of Cordy and her lazy eating. However, Mira doesn’t seem to care where it’s coming from, as long as there is food. She has no problem going back and forth between bottle and breast.

But I didn’t want to go down the formula route again. It’s expensive, it stinks, and it’s a pain to prepare. So after consulting with my doula and pediatrician (Mira isn’t gaining weight like she should, so the ped is involved now), I’m now trying to increase my milk supply to satisfy my bottomless pit.

What’s involved in this? Well, my pediatrician suggested beer to help with supply issues. I always thought that to be an old-wives tale, but she said she’s seen it work. OK, I can drink a beer. No problem.

Then there’s the herbal solution. An herb called Fenugreek can help increase supply. This is the herb used to flavor artificial maple syrup. Much like garlic, when you take large amounts of it, it has the not-so-pleasant side-effect of scenting your sweat and urine. Which means that my sweat now smells like maple syrup. And my breath smells like beer. All I need at this point is some cigarette smoke and you could have a truck stop IHOP sensory experience in my presence.

It seems to be working so far. I hope that my supply will catch up to her demand soon, because after dealing with a baby who wanted nothing to do with my breasts, it’s frustrating to see her so eager to breastfeed and worry I don’t have enough for her.



Where Does My Time Go?

Where my time went prior to Mira:

5-7 hours – sleep
2-3 hours – blogging (often combined with watching TV, below)
8 hours – working, or if not working, entertaining Cordy and running errands
1 hour – cleaning or paying bills
1/2 hour – shower, personal care
2 hours – driving
4 hours – watching TV (only 2 of those watching TV that isn’t for Cordy)
1 hour – eating

Where my time goes now:

4-5 hours – sleep (on a good day)
1-2 hours – blogging (on a good day)
1 hour – eating (on a good day)
1/2 hour – shower, personal care (shower every other day)
1-2 hours – playing with Cordy or just giving her attention
1-2 hours – watching TV (blogging or nursing during this time, too)
1-2 hours – doing the “stop fussing, baby” dance around the house while holding Mira
8 hours or more – chained to my chair breastfeeding (not counting the hours she feeds overnight while in bed with us)

You’ll notice very little time in there for things like, oh, housecleaning or bill paying. We’re doing the minimum needed to get by at this point.

It’s amazing how much time goes into a newborn. I used to think I was a busy person before we had Mira. Now I think I had the leisurely life and didn’t realize how easy it was. With one child, the parents are a true tag team: one can be on duty while the other is doing something else. Need a break? Tag the other parent into the ring.

Now we’re in a full two on two battle. The kids don’t take turns with their needs, meaning they often each need something at the same time. Each parent is generally keeping an eye on one child. If I shower, I take Cordy up to our bedroom with us, so she can play there while I shower, keeping the shower curtain open halfway to watch her.

Next week I’ll start learning how to deal with both at the same time on my own, when Aaron goes back to work part time. Hopefully I’ll be able to find a way to manage other than sitting in my chair nursing Mira and throwing Fruity Cheerios on the floor to appease Cordy while she watches Noggin.

This post is part of the Light Iris and Parent Bloggers Network Blog Blast. If you’d like to join in, simply write a post on the topic, “Where does my time go?” before midnight tonight, and e-mail Parent Bloggers to let them know. One blogger will be chosen at random to win a full 2-day conference pass to BlogHer ’07!



Keep Your Marriage Healthy

While we’ve had our bumps along the way, I’d generally say that my marriage is in pretty good shape. Before we were married, an issue forced us into counseling, but through that we learned how to communicate with each other and actually address our issues before they blew up into big problems. Even now, Aaron and I often recommend counseling to friends who confide relationship problems to us. We sincerely believe it can help if both partners are committed to improving their relationship.

But what if you don’t have time to go see a counselor, or what if you’d simply like to do a little preventative maintenance on your relationship? A counselor isn’t always the most practical solution. Which is why eHarmony (yes, the singles site) has created the eHarmony Marriage site.

Click here to read the review…



And So It Begins…

(Mira is crying)

Cordy: Mister Mommy? (Where does she get “mister” from?)

Me: Yes, Cordy?

Cordy: The baby is hungry.

Me: You think she’s hungry? Should we feed her?

Cordy: Nooooo.



I Miss The School Pizzas

I had mentioned my not-so-nutritious high school lunches in a meme a few weeks ago: Snickers bar and fries. It’s true, it was my primary lunch in high school. Truthfully, I learned how to work the system with school lunches from an early age.

In elementary school, we didn’t have variety when it came to lunch. You had one meal, no a la carte options, and the only choice you had was white or chocolate milk. And half the time the chocolate milk was gone before you got to the cashier. As a picky eater, I generally scoffed at most of the food I was given. Vegetables? Never. Fruit? Only if it was the mixed fruit swimming in syrup. No soupy noodles, no meatloaf, and chicken patty sandwiches only if I could drown it in ketchup. If my mom knew how much money was wasted on food I didn’t eat, she’d probably make me start paying it back with interest.

The only days I was guaranteed to eat were the days when french fries or pizza (or both) were served. Oh, how I loved those little institutional rectangular pizzas! The little chunks of highly processed pepperoni, the greasy cheese that came off in one piece…even the slightly cardboard crust was heaven to me. No other food, at home or anywhere else, could compare to the school pizza.

In middle school, those pizzas were still on the menu, but now we had an a la carte line, and desserts! Fries were always on the a la carte line, so I’d always have a serving of fried spuds, but I’d save extra lunch money for pizza days, when I could get not one, but TWO pizzas! Each lunch was always finished with an ice cream sandwich, also.

I wonder if they still serve those little rectangle pizzas in school? I remember going to college and being slightly disappointed that the dining halls didn’t have these little greasy treasures. Do they sell these pizzas to the public?

Looking back over my school lunches, I know I made a lot of bad choices. Nutrition wasn’t exactly a concern for me – it had to taste good. And while the school did their job of providing balanced meals, they couldn’t make me eat the parts that were healthier than others. Of course, the addition of the a la carte line in middle and high school, plus the further addition of a soda machine and student-run snack store filled with candy bars and chips in high school didn’t exactly further the cause of healthy eating.

I know I won’t be able to make my daughters eat healthy in school, however I hope I can encourage them to do better than I did. My eating habits led to worse eating habits which led to weight gain and poor self-esteem. And I hope the schools will continue to look for new ways to encourage healthy eating as well, such as removing the soda and snack machines or forbidding their use during lunch.

But you can bet I’ll still encourage them to try the pizza.

This post is part of the Blog Blast hosted by Parent Bloggers Network. Check out School Menu and its parental counterpart Family Everyday, two sites that work together with School Food Services Directors to provide and promote healthy eating and physical fitness for kids and their parents.

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